Giving and Gratitude

November begins the holiday season — normally, a treasured time with family and friends. This year will undoubtedly look very different for us all. Even in years without the added stress of a pandemic, for many, the holidays are not always idyllic.

Increased loneliness, anxiety, sadness, and depression are common over the holidays. This year, it’s fair to say that most of us are looking for ways to overcome some degree of melancholy. Psychology research shows that giving and gratitude can help to lift spirits and are closely linked to increased happiness.

Giving Tuesday is an annual global day of generosity, perhaps, this year, ideally timed to help us feel empowered and impactful during a moment of uncertainty, fear, and loss.

Supporting the Yolo Crisis Nursery this Giving Tuesday, Dec. 1, will give hope to the most vulnerable children in Yolo County. Every family we serve is unique, with specific needs, but each is facing crisis and adversity and often has nowhere else to turn. Your donation can provide an overnight safe stay for a child, childcare essentials and caring support at the moment a family needs it the most. And this year, three amazing donors will double the impact of your gift, by matching dollar-for-dollar all donations up to $20,000!

Your gift to the Nursery will help families like Amanda’s break the cycle of crisis and become stronger together. Amanda, a mother of two, recently moved back to Yolo County after living out of state. Unable to find housing, she and her children moved into her mother’s home where they were exposed to domestic violence. Amanda shared that her mom had a long history of choosing “bad men” and that she herself had been exposed to domestic violence through much of her childhood.

When she met with a Yolo Crisis Nursery caseworker, Amanda was homeless, without a stable income, overwhelmed with her parental responsibilities, and trying to come to terms with the haunting domestic violence experiences of her own childhood. Amanda did not want her children to have the same exposure to violence that she experienced growing up. She reached out in hopes that the Nursery could provide the stability needed for her children to escape the violence in her mother’s home. Amanda was right, the Nursery not only provided respite care for the children, but also the opportunity for her to begin to heal and start anew.

Amanda is remarkably resilient, and she needed to rely on that strength as she began the hard work of starting over again. She engaged with the Nursery’s wrap-around services to participate in parenting classes, address legal issues, find housing, obtain professional training, and engage in counseling.

In less than a year, Amanda has made remarkable accomplishments. She is in stable permanent housing with her two children. Her oldest child is enrolled in school and distance learning at a before- and aftercare program, and her youngest child is now in care at the Yolo Crisis Nursery while Amanda works towards completing nursing school and achieving her goal of becoming a nurse.

Amanda’s commitment, in the face of adversity, to keep her children safe, healthy, and strong is remarkable. Her hard work and resilience will continue to help Amanda achieve her goal of breaking the cycle of violence in her family. All of us at the Nursery are so excited to witness this strong mother attain her goals and build a brighter future for her children.

Having been with the Yolo Crisis Nursery for almost 20 years now, I continue to be amazed at the gratitude of our client families and the generosity of our supporters. Day in and day out, our staff and client families are addressing unimaginable challenges. All too often, the Nursery’s wrap-around approach and services can mean the difference between life and death for the youngest and most vulnerable children in our community

I invite you to start your season of gratitude by giving to a family facing extraordinary challenges. Through your support, the Nursery can avert disaster with well-timed assistance and early intervention. Please join us by making your gift on Giving Tuesday, Dec. 1, to enact positive change in our community and in the lives of vulnerable children in Yolo County. To learn more about the Yolo Crisis Nursery or to make a donation, please visit www.yolocrisisnursery.org.


This article was written by Becky Heard and originally appeared in the Davis Enterprise on Sunday, November 22, 2020.

The Yolo Crisis Nursery began serving children ages birth to five years old and their families in 2001. Since then, the Nursery has continuously provided early intervention services in a safe environment to nurture healthy and resilient children, strengthen parents and preserve families.

From 2001 until early 2014, the nursery operated under a parent nonprofit agency. Yolo Crisis Nursery executive director Heather Sleuter recalls receiving the news that the nursery would close in 30 days and our parent agency would leave Yolo County. “We had just bundled up the last of 12 children to leave for the day with parents and guardians. Two children would spend the night with our staff as their parents got immediate help. I thought, what will happen to these children — and all the children who need the nursery’s care — if we close?”

The departure of our host agency from Yolo County in 2014 created a crisis. The nursery was facing closure. A group of volunteers who had been formed years earlier for fundraising assistance to the Nursery — The Friends of the Yolo Crisis Nursery — immediately began to search for a licensed host agency to take over the Yolo Crisis Nursery operations. For a variety of reasons, one was not found.

With the 30 days’ notice of closure, the majority of grants that had funded the nursery were terminated. There was no more agency, no more money and no more time. The clock was ticking. And then, the angels arrived and brought with them the miracles that are now legendary.

Heidy Kellison, president of the Friends, boldly negotiated a continuation of the Yolo Crisis Nursery operations with private funding while a nonprofit corporation was formed, licensed and became a public 501(c)(3) charity. The Yolo Crisis Nursery now had 90 days to remain open while securing funding for the interim operation of the nursery and a full fiscal year of funding for operations totaling almost $400,000. Heidy returned to Friends of the Yolo Crisis Nursery with a three-month clock, determination and enduring hope.  She is my hero.

Yolo Crisis Nursery Inc., was formed with a board of directors consisting of Becky Heard, as chair, Kellison, Liz Malinoff, Trish Bosco and myself. On behalf of the new corporation, I submitted an application for 501 (c) (3) status, and Heather Sleuter, completed all of the licensing applications. Yolo County Children’s Alliance acted as the interim public charity on behalf of the new corporation.

With the 90 days quickly racing by, the newly formed board immediately hired Cam Stoufer to help replace the terminated grants with new funding streams. Cam’s efforts yielded immediate dividends and continued throughout her six years of service. While Cam applied for grant funding, the newly formed Board and the Friends of the Yolo Crisis Nursery were feverishly fundraising to save the nursery.

The Yolo Crisis Nursery is open today because of the generosity of Yolo County citizens, businesses and organizations, as well as our families and friends nationwide. All are connected by our shared belief that every child deserves to grow up in a safe, loving, and stable home. The redemption story of these times is for a different forum than this article, but the angles ranged from bakes sales to large monetary donations.

In those 90 days, contributions from family and friends, and the Yolo community of individuals, clubs, churches, and others, as well as grants, totaled $364,000! At the risk of forgetting someone, I will not attempt to enumerate the many contributors of time, talent and treasure. But, for the sake of deservedness, I must give credit to Yolo County Supervisor Jim Provenza for his advocacy during this perilous time.  His commitment and passion for the mission and community need of the Yolo Crisis Nursery became the cornerstone of our successful fundraising efforts.

In 2015, the newly licensed, nonprofit corporation Yolo Crisis Nursery Inc. began standalone activity. Sleuter was named executive director and has continued in that capacity to this day. In our first full year as an independent nonprofit, we served 129 children. Last year, we served 692 children. We serve at-risk children ages birth to 5 years old and their families as an upstream investment in the future of our community.

The COVID-19 pandemic has brought new challenges to the nursery. The Yolo Crisis Nursery is an essential service and has remained open during the stay-at-home orders. “Over six months into the pandemic, we have more families than ever in crisis. We are seeing increases in clients experiencing domestic violence, homelessness, and postpartum depression,” Sleuter said. “In addition, we are helping essential workers with young children and distributing record numbers of care packages in our community. The need has never been greater.”

As it has since 2001, the Nursery has remained open, serving a population under great stress. These families are hit hardest by the pandemic and are struggling with homelessness, unemployment, isolation, and uncertainty. I invite you to support the Nursery and the children they serve with your time, talents, or a donation. To learn more please visit www.yolocrisisnursery.org. We are community.

This article was written by Vic Bucher and originally appeared in the Davis Enterprise on Sunday, October 25, 2020.